A couple days ago, one of my friends clued me into the newest “thin” trend: the bikini bridge. I had never heard of it so I started Google-imaging it. Here are some (legal) photos that I found: According to Daily Mail, the bikini bridge is when bikini bottoms are suspended between hip bones, creating a bridge between the abs and the bikini. There’s actually an entire Tumblr site dedicated to pictures of women trying to obtain this feature: Bikini Bridge.
Is this the new “thigh gap”? Writers at Daily Mail quote the trend as being “Horrific Thinspiriation.” Buzzfeed apparently published an article called the 12 Benefits of a Bikini Bridge, and the hashtag #bikinibridge is circulating on Twitter.
Is this another attempt at fat-shaming? Is it just another reason to tempt young females to push their bodies to the point of starvation? Am I making too big of a deal about something that isn’t? I mean, who in the world even sat around long enough to come up with an actual name for such a thing–that’s what I really want to know. WHO IS THAT BORED?!
Don’t get me wrong…I remember laying on the beach a couple summers ago, sucking my stomach in, looking at my bikini line and thinking to myself, “I wish my stomach was always this flat!” Stomachs always look better when you’re laying flat, right? (Hands clasped behind the head, one knee bent, and one out straight–hotness on the beach–I’ve got this down.) So it makes me actually wonder, is a bikini bridge really that hard to obtain? I’ve never been called “skinny” and I can suck in my abs enough for a selfie, so is this new buzz-phrase really all that people are cracking it up to be? Or is it truly another serious disorder sweeping our society and brainwashing our women?
Me–a female whose ultimate goal is to always look as good as I can while being as fit and healthy as can be–I am torn on this issue. So I’m handing the blogging over to the male perspective. Ladies, is a bikini bridge sexy? Is it something to strive for? Let’s listen to the guys on this one.
Steph asked me to comment on this new trend to hear a male perspective. I do think most men like girls who are thin. But bones protruding thin is not attractive. In fact it is pretty gross. I can’t imagine any guy would want to lay close to someone who was bony. Think about all the romantic songs you’ve heard, think about the thousands of poems describing a beautiful woman, do you ever remember a lyric or verse that described her as bony? Well that is what a bikini bridge is — the pelvic bones protrude.
The reason you haven’t heard song lyrics about bony women is because no one thinks this is attractive. Try something for me: close your eyes, take two fingers and massage the inside of your thigh. I want you to think of this feeling sensation from your fingers’ perspective. What you are feeling right now is what men like to feel when they touch you. Now do the same thing but instead of your thigh try massaging your knee. Do you honestly think that is what men want to feel? And I want to avoid making this sexual but we are talking about the pelvis region. I think you can get my point.
Look at this photo by Billy Cuenta courtesy of Flickr. Billy is a great photographer; the lighting is great, and at first glance you might even think the model is desirable. We have been trained by our media to believe this picture is sexy and at first glance it is aesthetically pleasing. The red, the shadows, the unblemished skin. Combine this with an erotic pose and we assume — sex. Therefore, it must be sexy. But look closer. Look at her right hip bone and follow it down towards her toes — what is that indentation? that is NOT normal! And that is NOT sexy. Is that want women really want?!?!?!?! Because men do not like strange dents in our women.
Women often care more about how they look to other women than how they look to men. Don’t ask me why.
And American society does glorify the overly thin model. The vast majority of MEN do NOT find overly thin women to be attractive. I put the emphasis on men because our society is plagued with immature douche bags who think they can date models; but in reality they have never been close to a woman or they would know the above picture is not actually sexy. And sorry, but those guys are not men.
So here we have a fast growing trend where women are STARVING themselves so much that they are turning off MEN in favor of appealing “ideal” to other women and that loser guy who wears sunglasses at night.
As idiotic as that is, it is also dangerous. Studies show that 4% of teenage girls suffer from anorexia nervosa. That may not seem like a big number but if you are a teacher in a school with only 1,000 students and 40 of them do not eat — its a big frickin number.
Stephanie asked a great question, who came up with this? and a better question is who thought this is something women should want?
Societies have always manufactured certain physical characteristics as attractive. In fact, there are very few universal norms when it comes to what is attractive. Most societies prefer facial symmetry and smooth skin. These make sense. These are signs of health and possibly good genetic stock.
Other signs of beauty might not make so much sense:
And in America, they have bikini bridges and thigh gaps.
You could probably make the argument that our standards are the most absurd. Many are born with crooked teeth and the American singer Jewel has even been celebrated for not “fixing” her teeth. I think Mauritania, probably makes the most sense. Why have we demonized stretch marks? Don’t most women worldwide have them? Even the “fattening huts” make sense when you consider Uganda is a country familiar with drought and famine. Having extra weight in such a place, likely means a greater chance of survival. But what exactly does a bikini bridge do? Someone needs to make sense of this for me. Preferably not someone who has paid more than $50 for a t-shirt.
Do you think the bikini bridge is attractive? Is this something women should strive for? Do you know where this new trend started?